What are you ready to change today?
Surely an easy question, yet it’s harder to answer than it looks.
A person comes to therapy to talk about their issues, express their feelings gain a sense of validation and acknowledgement through being heard and accepted. While goals or hopes or focus for the session are common therapy questions; seldom/rarely does a person get asked “What are you ready to change today.”
We make the therapy appointment seeking assistance. You want change possibly knowing there is life beyond where you are right now. Feeling uncertain and only knowing we need ’help and want to change.
Qualified Resource Therapists are trained to assist you through a process that connects you to your emotions, thoughts, feelings and reactivity that are at the heart of why you sought help.
We go to psychotherapy to talk about something that is bugging us, bugging others or issues holding us back stuck in confusion and weighed down by stress.
Resource Therapists target your life issues directly. There is less talking about the issues or lengthy history taking session after session. All you need to bring into the Resource therapy room is a willingness and desire to change what you want in your life.
Resolution occurs through a process of facilitation rather like internal family therapy session. Our Resource States trapped in hurt, emotional pain, guilt, shame, anger, betrayal and abandonment and all those other stuck emotions get an opportunity to heal through validation, appreciation, expression, removal and relief.
Exclusive to us and inside each of us is a rich array of Resource States equipped to help out if called upon. Some are loving states, some are every day living states, some hold trauma trapped in flight or fight responses and others safeguard us from perceived harm.
Many of these states were formed in childhood. Sometimes situations trigger us. Where we respond with childhood coping strategies, not suited to the adult world. We may see Parts express inappropriate anger, rage, fear and the diversity of emotions we each feels in our every day world.
Even as we grow, some of our Resources remain locked in the past, caught up in the old ways of reacting connected to the original experience and emotional charge associate with it.
Resource Therapists call this the Initial Sensitizing Event. This is buried in our subconscious. As an adult most of us would be untroubled/ not bothered by it but to a child it is highly distressing and without attunement and care at the time can be traumatizing.
We can have parts that are scared of connection. When we experienced a parent less than loving at times and let’s face it every parent gets that chance, we may feel neglected, abandoned or unlovable. As adults we may struggle to with relationships and to form appropriate attachments.
Enacting our fears when someone gets close to us as anxiety bubbles up with this long held sense of unlovability. This Resource state feels and believes it is not good enough or deserving of love.
Another Resource state designed to protect you from these overwhelming feelings comes to the surface. It will ‘save the day’ behaving in ways that push others away or become a self fulfilling prophecy and board the self sabotage express as relationships are damaged.
A vicious cycle which your Resource Therapist is an expert at changing, giving you the life and love you want and everyone deserves.
Whatever it is you want to change, change can happen.
Resource Therapy is a brief Parts therapy, bounded in positive psychology. Resource Therapy is based on the premise our personality is made up of multifaceted parts, rather than being a homogeneous whole. These parts )which we all have) are called our Resources and we each have many Resources available to help us.
We can thank Disney Pixar for a really clever take on our ‘Parts’ .Watch the movie Inside out here for a fun way to discover our different parts. Perhaps you can relate!
Resource Therapy was developed by Professor Gordon Emmerson combining his knowledge of psychology and client experience.
In a therapeutic setting Resource Therapy (RT) is a finely crafted tool of precision that gives therapists the most direct access to the part of the personality that is experiencing the presenting issue and provides effective intervention methods in order to resolve them efficiently.
Thus Resource therapy addresses client’s issues in the most direct manner, with results being incredibly fast, effective, efficient and permanent. I liken Resource therapy (Advanced Ego State Therapy) to the Occam’s razor of brief, solution-focused therapy. This removes the need for symptomatic relief or any homework as we get to the source of the client’s distress.
The Ship Metaphor – Life at Sea
As a means to show your Resources and how they operate, imagine if you will a big old ship of yesteryear, like the Pirates of the Caribbean movies with Geoffrey Rush, Johnny Depp, Keith Richrads Keira Knightley, and Orlando Bloom on board the Black Pearl with Captain Jack Sparrow.
Think of your body as the Black Pearl, which has a spinnaker wheel, on the the bridge (your brain) that determines where you are going on the sea of life and how to handle situations and emotions.
A Resource is a personality part that is at the helm of the ship, dealing with the ebb and flow of life, negotiating a safe return to port or sailing the sevens seas looking for adventure.
To run this huge ship of course requires many hands (our Resource States). So there there will be other parts on deck nearby close to the helm ready to step onto the bridge to take the wheel, if so required, some below deck and more buried in the depths of the ship that may rarely come to the surface (the subconscious).
Each of your crew on your ship can be thought of as our inner ‘Resources’, with their many individual, specific talents, abilities, knowledge, and sometimes fragility.
For the scientifically minded -conceptually our Resource States are a neural pathway that has been formed via repetition. For further information on the Neuroscience behind Resource Therapy please click here.
The secret to inner peace is getting all our Resources healed and working in harmony together as a happy healthy inner family on our ship, that allows robust discussion, respect for each parts perspectives, opinions (Resources can have differing opinions, skills and abilities) and vulnerabilities.
Resource Therapy origins and influences
Like most modern day psychological therapies Resource Therapy has grown out of psycho-dynamic traditions.
The Goal of Resource Therapy
Resource Therapy works by insuring the therapist works directly with the Resource that needs change. As effective therapists we need to be changolists!
How many times have you had a client sit in front of you telling you about the problem and the great insights they have into their issues but feeling stuck and despondent, despite this awareness?
This is because we are usually talking to a Resource State that is aware of the problem but not the Resource State that needs to be worked with directly.
The real power for change is when the therapist brings into the Conscious the pathological or emotional state and works directly with this State.
Learning to work directly with the State that needs help provides therapists laser precision therapy to get to the goal and the solution.
According to Professor Emmerson these inner Resources can exist in five conditions:
- Normal – peaceful and contented
This is the aim of Resource Therapists.
- Vaded – overwhelmed in unwanted strong emotions ( Pathological State)
These Resource States are those that have been traumatized, through either a single incident say an auto accident, assault or robbery. Or through a a series of events neglect, punishment or rejections.
- Retro – unhelpful and unwanted behaviors ( Pathological State)
- Conflicted – Where parts are at odds to the extent they cause angst (Pathological States)
- Dissonant – Where the wrong part is out and feels very uncomfortable in a particular situation (Dysfunctional State)
The goal of Resource Therapy is for pathological or dysfunctional states to return to a state of normality.
Trained Resource Therapists accomplish this in a four step process:
- Aim: Determine what the client is ready to change, ( Phew no guess work!)
- Classify: Diagnose the pathological State, ( only eight pathological categories!)
- Actions : apply the appropriate Resource Therapy Actions for the diagnosis. ( 15 Resource Therapy Actions that provide clear protocols for effective treatment.
- Review: Debrief with the client. ( Ensure work is complete)
As psychologists, counselors, therapists and coaches I believe we have answered a call into the healing profession as we are drawn to helping people feel better and resolving their problems.
This to me is a very wonderful calling and I am dedicated to helping therapists build a busy successful and effective therapy practice. This is the reason Chris and I are training other therapists in Resource Therapy. I am practical and I like to clients to get results and freedom from their issues. Resource Therapy provides the answer.
Find out how you can learn Resource Therapy and benefit with a busy practice with satisfied clients who feel better within themselves and refer others