💔 When a Kiss-Cam Turns Into a Trauma Trigger: What Therapists Can Learn from the Coldplay Scandal

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🟡 Featured Article – Australian Resource Therapy Institute
🎓 CPD Workshop Opportunity Below

At a recent Coldplay concert, what should have been a light-hearted kiss-cam moment turned into a viral scandal. A well-known CEO and a senior colleague, reportedly involved in a workplace affair, were caught in an embrace. Their startled reaction—pulling away, awkward body language, visible discomfort—was beamed onto screens, recorded by attendees, and broadcast across social media. Within days, it triggered a public relations crisis, an investigation, and eventual resignations.

While the internet debated motives and morality, those of us trained in trauma saw something else:
a freeze response, public shame, internal parts in conflict, and a nervous system under threat.

This moment offers a powerful teaching tool for trauma-informed therapists—especially those working with couples.


👀 What Was Really Happening?

Many viewers saw “guilt” or “caught in the act.” But clinically, what we witnessed looked more like:

  • A protective part startled into shutdown
  • A shamed part recoiling in real-time
  • A nervous system overwhelmed by unexpected exposure

This is the language of trauma. And our clients bring versions of this into the room every week.


💔 Public Scandal, Private Injury

Whether or not an affair occurred is secondary. The deeper lesson is that many couples live with:

  • Secrets they cannot name
  • Shame they cannot bear
  • Injuries they cannot repair

And when those injuries surface—sometimes through betrayal, sometimes through conflict or emotional neglect—therapists must know how to regulate, attune, and navigate the emotional terrain.


🧩 This Is Where Many Therapists Get Stuck

Even experienced clinicians report:

  • “I don’t know how to help when one partner freezes or rages.”
  • “I feel caught in the middle when betrayal enters the room.”
  • “They talk, but nothing shifts emotionally or somatically.”

The problem is not your skill. It is the absence of trauma-integrated training in couples therapy.


🎓 That’s Exactly Why This Workshop Exists

If you’ve ever felt unequipped, overwhelmed, or uncertain when trauma showed up in the couple dynamic, we invite you to join:

🧠 Healing Trauma, Restoring Connection
A two-day in-person CPD training with trauma therapist and educator Maureen McEvoy
📍 Crows Nest Community Centre, Sydney
🗓️ 8–9 November 2025
🎓 Sponsored by the Australian Resource Therapy Institute

You’ll learn:

  • How to identify protective and wounded parts in real time
  • How to safely work with trauma ruptures in the couple system
  • How to repair shame and restore connection – without re-traumatising
  • Tools that blend parts work, Imago work, somatic therapy, narrative therapy, and attachment

This is not a theoretical training – it is clinical, practical, and empowering.


✅ Learn to Hold What the World Judges

When public shame erupts, most people run or attack.
As trauma therapists, we learn to sit with it.
To name the pain, anchor the system, and begin repair.

🛳️ Join us. Be the therapist who knows what to do when trauma walks into the room.
🔗 Register now 🧠 Healing Trauma, Restoring Connection in person, Sydney Workshop

PS personal note from Philipa

I’ve worked with many couples facing moments like this—whether it’s betrayal, confusion, or emotional disconnection. These are some of the most painful moments in a relationship… but they can also be the doorway to deeper understanding and growth.

If this post resonated with you, please know help is available. You do not have to figure this out alone.

With warmth and care,
Philipa Thornton
Registered Psychologist & Couples Therapist
www.marriageworks.com.au

The Trauma Training You Didn’t Know You Needed (But Won’t Forget)

CouplestherapytraumatrainingSydneyWorkshopNov2025

Live in Sydney | 8–9 November 2025 | CPD-Approved In-Person Workshop

Imagine feeling calm, confident, and equipped the next time a client’s trauma story overwhelms the room.
Imagine knowing how to hold space, without burning out.
Imagine doing it live, in the room, with a therapist who has walked the walk for over 30 years.

This November, Maureen McEvoy, one of Canada’s most beloved Imago Relationships trauma educators, is coming to Sydney for a powerful two-day training:

🧠 Healing Trauma, Restoring Connection
📍 Crows Nest Community Centre, Sydney
🗓️ 8–9 November 2025

Hosted by the Australian Resource Therapy Institute, this rare in-person event is your opportunity to go beyond theory, and experience what it truly means to integrate trauma-informed care into your practice.


This Workshop Is For You If…

  • You want to feel more confident working with disorganised attachment
  • You’re curious about how to integrate parts work, ego state therapy, art therapy, and somatic tools
  • You don’t specialise in couples work, but you know relationships are always in the room
  • You’ve felt overwhelmed by trauma disclosures, and want real tools to respond
  • You’re tired of online training and ready for face-to-face learning that sticks

This isn’t just for couples therapists. It’s for anyone who works with humans. Therapists, psychologists, doctors, psychiatrists, counsellors, social workers, coaches – all are welcome.


What You’ll Learn (And Use Straight Away)

✅ Practical interventions for relational trauma and emotional regulation
✅ Creative techniques using art therapy, body awareness, and parts dialogue
✅ How to build co-regulation and relational safety
✅ A clear, experiential understanding of how your own attachment style shapes your work
✅ A flexible framework you can integrate with Imago, EFT, PACT, and other modalities

This is not a sit-and-watch weekend. This is an engaged, experiential deep dive with one of the best in the field.

“I wish I’d done this years ago.”
– Every therapist who’s trained with Maureen


Who Is Maureen McEvoy?

Maureen is a Certified Advanced Imago Therapist with over three decades of clinical experience. She is known for her grounded presence, gentle humour, and ability to translate complex trauma theory into skills that work in the real world, with real clients.

Her approach is integrative and accessible. You’ll learn how to blend modalities like:

  • Parts work (including Resource Therapy, Ego State Therapy, and IFS-aligned thinking)
  • Imago Relationship Therapy
  • EFT and PACT principles
  • Somatic and art-based interventions
  • Attachment-centred frameworks for emotional safety and healing

Whether you’re just starting out or decades into practice, Maureen meets you where you are – and helps you grow from there.


Why You’ll Want to Act Now

🕰️ This is Maureen’s ONLY Sydney workshop in 2025
🎟️ Super Early Bird, ends 30 June – and it’s timed perfectly for your end-of-financial-year CPD claims
📉 Save by registering early
📍 In-person, live, human-centred – no recordings, no replays, no second chances


Details at a Glance

📍 Venue: Crows Nest Community Centre, Sydney
🗓️ Dates: 8–9 November 2025
🕘 Time: 8.30 am – 5.00 pm both days

🎓 CPD certificate provided


💸 Investment:

  • $895 Super Early Bird (until 30 June – EOFY special!)
  • $995 Early Bird (1 July – 31 August)
  • $1100 Standard (from 1 September)
    🎓 Includes CPD certificate

Ready To Book?

Spots are limited and already filling.
📩 Email philipathornton@gmail.com to register
📝 Or Click here to download the registration form


Final Thought

As therapists, we often hold everything for everyone else.
This workshop is a chance to reconnect with your purpose, your people, and your presence.

You didn’t know you needed this.
But once you’ve been there, you won’t forget it.

We can’t wait to meet you!

Warmly, Philipa and Chris.


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