Trauma-Informed Couples Therapy: Essential Skills for Therapists

3 needs every relationship therapist needs for trauma informed training workshop in Sydney with international presenter rare appearance

Concrete tools and community for the moments when dialogue is not enough

The couple sits across from you. Her eyes fall to the floor, as do her tears. His arms fold tight across his chest, his face grim – frozen. The Imago dialogue tool you had planned now feels impossible.

This is the moment when trauma has entered the room.

Most relationship therapists know this dynamic well. You have the skills, the training, the frameworks. But sometimes the silence, the shutdown, or the sudden outburst is not about the argument at hand. They are trauma speaking.


What Therapists Really Want from Training

Relational therapists across modalities like Imago, EFT, PACT, Gottman Relationship therapy share a similar vision for trauma-informed training. Three needs appear again and again.

1. Confidence in the Therapy Room

Therapists want to know exactly what to do when trauma shows up between partners. They want more than theory. They want clear steps that integrate with their existing models.

At the workshop: You will explore what we call the 3 R’s of Trauma Informed Couples Work™ – Recognise trauma’s presence, support partners to Regulate, and Restore connection. These principles are woven through Maureen McEvoy’s integrative approach, and you will leave with practical scripts, somatic practices, and concrete interventions you can use immediately.

2. Connection with Peers

Couples’ work can feel lonely. Therapists long for a community that “gets it.” Shared wisdom. Validation that their struggles are not unique.

At the workshop, You will join colleagues from Imago, EFT, Gottman, PACT, creative arts and other modalities. It is more than a training. It is a gathering of therapists who share your vision. You will come as colleagues and leave as friends.

3. Skills that Align with Values

Therapists want approaches that honour their clients’ humanity. They want non-pathologising, strengths-based methods that are deeply respectful of client experience.

It is in the doing. You will experience these innovations by applying what you are learning as we go through the program. No long lectures, Maureen’s practical exercises will land as you embody them ready for your next couples session.

At the workshop: With more than 30 years of trauma and couples therapy experience, Maureen shows and teaches how to weave somatic, arts-based, and polyvagal methods into existing frameworks in ways that fit your values and deepen your practice.


Why this Matters Now

Trauma is not a side issue. It is often the reason couples disconnect. Dialogue tools alone are not enough. To stay at the forefront of the field, trauma-informed training is essential. Clients are already asking for it. Tomorrow’s therapists will be defined by it.


About Your Presenter

Maureen McEvoy, MA, RCC (Canada) has worked in the field of trauma for over 30 years. She is a long-standing instructor with the Justice Institute of British Columbia and provides clinical consultation to therapists and agencies. Maureen is a senior Imago Therapy faculty member. She draws from her learnings in hypnosis, Parts work, Ego State Therapy, Gottman, somatic therapy, Pat Ogden’s sensorimotor therapy, arts therapy, Stan Tatkins’ PACT, EFT, and Polyvagal theory. Colleagues say: “Maureen has a gift for making the complex feel simple and the difficult feel possible.”


The Workshop

Healing Trauma, Restoring Connection
📅 8–9 November 2025, Sydney
👩‍🏫 Presenter: Maureen McEvoy, MSW, RSW (Canada)
🟡 Sponsored by Australian Resource Therapy Institute (ARTI)
🔗 Secure your place

💡 Eligible for 12 CPD Hours PACFA, ACA, ASCH, AASW, AAPI, AIRTA, APS Members


We Can’t Wait to Meet You!

Do not wait until you are back in the therapy room wishing you had more trauma tools. Places are limited, and the Early Bird rate ends soon. Join us in Sydney for a community of peers, the confidence to meet trauma in the room, and the skills to restore connection.

👉 Secure your place today, tickets selling fast


💔 When a Kiss-Cam Turns Into a Trauma Trigger: What Therapists Can Learn from the Coldplay Scandal

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At a recent Coldplay concert, what should have been a light-hearted kiss-cam moment turned into a viral scandal. A well-known CEO and a senior colleague, reportedly involved in a workplace affair, were caught in an embrace. Their startled reaction—pulling away, awkward body language, visible discomfort—was beamed onto screens, recorded by attendees, and broadcast across social media. Within days, it triggered a public relations crisis, an investigation, and eventual resignations.

While the internet debated motives and morality, those of us trained in trauma saw something else:
a freeze response, public shame, internal parts in conflict, and a nervous system under threat.

This moment offers a powerful teaching tool for trauma-informed therapists—especially those working with couples.


👀 What Was Really Happening?

Many viewers saw “guilt” or “caught in the act.” But clinically, what we witnessed looked more like:

  • A protective part startled into shutdown
  • A shamed part recoiling in real-time
  • A nervous system overwhelmed by unexpected exposure

This is the language of trauma. And our clients bring versions of this into the room every week.


💔 Public Scandal, Private Injury

Whether or not an affair occurred is secondary. The deeper lesson is that many couples live with:

  • Secrets they cannot name
  • Shame they cannot bear
  • Injuries they cannot repair

And when those injuries surface—sometimes through betrayal, sometimes through conflict or emotional neglect—therapists must know how to regulate, attune, and navigate the emotional terrain.


🧩 This Is Where Many Therapists Get Stuck

Even experienced clinicians report:

  • “I don’t know how to help when one partner freezes or rages.”
  • “I feel caught in the middle when betrayal enters the room.”
  • “They talk, but nothing shifts emotionally or somatically.”

The problem is not your skill. It is the absence of trauma-integrated training in couples therapy.


🎓 That’s Exactly Why This Workshop Exists

If you’ve ever felt unequipped, overwhelmed, or uncertain when trauma showed up in the couple dynamic, we invite you to join:

🧠 Healing Trauma, Restoring Connection
A two-day in-person CPD training with trauma therapist and educator Maureen McEvoy
📍 Crows Nest Community Centre, Sydney
🗓️ 8–9 November 2025
🎓 Sponsored by the Australian Resource Therapy Institute

You’ll learn:

  • How to identify protective and wounded parts in real time
  • How to safely work with trauma ruptures in the couple system
  • How to repair shame and restore connection – without re-traumatising
  • Tools that blend parts work, Imago work, somatic therapy, narrative therapy, and attachment

This is not a theoretical training – it is clinical, practical, and empowering.


✅ Learn to Hold What the World Judges

When public shame erupts, most people run or attack.
As trauma therapists, we learn to sit with it.
To name the pain, anchor the system, and begin repair.

🛳️ Join us. Be the therapist who knows what to do when trauma walks into the room.
🔗 Register now 🧠 Healing Trauma, Restoring Connection in person, Sydney Workshop

PS personal note from Philipa

I’ve worked with many couples facing moments like this—whether it’s betrayal, confusion, or emotional disconnection. These are some of the most painful moments in a relationship… but they can also be the doorway to deeper understanding and growth.

If this post resonated with you, please know help is available. You do not have to figure this out alone.

With warmth and care,
Philipa Thornton
Registered Psychologist & Couples Therapist
www.marriageworks.com.au

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