Ever feel like you’re a walking, talking contradiction? One minute you’re a calm, confident professional leading a high-stakes meeting, and the next you’re completely overwhelmed by a minor bit of critical feedback, feeling like a misunderstood child.
If that sounds familiar, let’s clear something up right now: You haven’t lost your marbles. You’ve just got a lively internal crew on deck, and a couple of your personality “parts” are clashing.
As psychologists and global parts therapy trainers, we believe the most misunderstood, under-utilised form of human intelligence isn’t something measured on a standard cognitive test.
It’s your Internal Intelligence. It’s how well you know, respect, and steer the different emotional parts living inside you.
When these parts engage in an internal tug-of-war, it feels like your ship is caught in a violent squall. Here is what is actually going on beneath deck, and how parts work can help get your inner crew working in brilliant harmony across Australia, New Zealand, and internationally.
The Myth of the “Single Self”
We are taught from childhood that we have one single, uniform personality. But our everyday language tells a completely different story. Think about how often you say things like:
- “A part of me really wants to apply for that promotion, but another part is terrified of failing.”
- “I don’t know why I snapped like that—that part of me just took over.”
The reality? You aren’t just one lonely sailor on deck; your personality is made up of a whole inner crew. In the psychological framework of Resource Therapy (RT), we call these facets your Resource States or parts.
Every single part stepped on board for an excellent reason: to handle a specific life situation. You have an analytical part for work, a playful adventurer for friends, and a fiercely protective lookout who watches for danger.
Ideally, your ship should operate under a beautifully clear system: The Normal Condition.
The Normal Benchmark: This is the ultimate goal for every single member of your inner crew.
A “Normal” part is completely healthy, grounded, and acting appropriately for the *here and now*. When a part is in this state, it steps up as the absolute best Captain of the Moment to suit the occasion, fully armed with the necessary skills to navigate your current reality smoothly. But just like a real ship crew, sometimes your inner parts get tired, hurt, or stuck in ancient patterns, throwing the whole vessel off course.
The Four Internal Clashes Potentially Sabotaging Your Life Voyage
When our internal intelligence breaks down, it’s usually because an everyday adult part has slipped into a part not equipped for the journey. If you feel like you are constantly fighting your own ship, look closely at these four common patterns:
1. The Vaded Parts (Trapped in Old Storms)
These are parts of your crew that have become flooded (vaded) by intense, unresolved emotions from past shipwrecks. They are stuck in an emotional time loop.
- Vaded in Fear: Flooded with old trauma, keeping your inner lookout in a state of constant anxiety and hyper-vigilance.
- Vaded in Rejection (The “Not Enough” Part): Carrying deep feelings of inadequacy and shame, causing this part to withdraw to the lower decks.
- Vaded in Disappointment: Operating with a low-energy, hopeless tone that mutters, “What’s the point? Abandon ship.”
- Vaded in Confusion: Trapped in endless rumination, looping guilt, or blame.
2. The Retro Parts (Outdated Navigation Software)
These parts are running on ancient, overlearned habits that no longer serve your current voyage.
- Retro Original: Old, automated behaviours your other parts dislike, like nail-biting, or defensive snapping under pressure.
- Retro Avoiding (The Numbing & Scrolling Part): Numbing strategies, like mindlessly scrolling your phone for hours or reaching for an extra glass of wine, are designed entirely to push uncomfortable feelings deep down into the cargo hold.
3. The Conflicted Parts (The Internal Tug-of-War)
This is classic psychological paralysis. Two of your internal parts are vehemently competing for the steering wheel with opposite goals. One part wants to speak up boldly and steer forward; the other is afraid of rocking the boat with conflict and locks your jaw, freezing the rudder.
4. The Dissonant Parts (Wrong Sailor at the Wheel)
This happens when an otherwise capable part shows up at the wrong station. Imagine your strict, hyper-analytical “corporate manager” part hijacking the wheel during a relaxed, romantic weekend away. Planning the next business decision in the boardroom. It’s an excellent, highly skilled part, but it’s in the completely wrong role for the current waters. Here, your romantic ‘partner’ part will be best to be in the driver’s seat.
🧭 Interactive Tool: Map Your Inner Crew
Want to see how your own internal team operates? Click below to try our live interactive parts passport. You can adjust the state of your inner crew to see exactly who takes the wheel as your Captain of the Moment. The link below opens up Philipa’s parts passport as a PDF file.
👉 Try the Inner Crew Parts Passport
Smooth Sailing Ahead: Review and Repair
True psychological agility isn’t about tossing challenging parts overboard or fighting yourself. Mutiny never brought peace to a ship. Instead, effective parts work is all about a supportive process of review and repair.
Our primary aim at Resource Therapy is to step in, compass in hand, to safely review what each part needs, repair the old distress, and guide them back to their healthy, Normal condition.
⚓ The Journey from Mutiny to Harmony
| Where You Are Now (Current Reality) | The Healing Voyage (Our Steps) | Where We Are Steering (Desired Reality) |
|---|---|---|
| • Flooded Parts: Anchored in past distress. | 1. Identify & Review: Meet the part with compassion. | • Smooth Sailing: An internal ship that glides effortlessly. |
| • Internal Mutiny: Parts fighting for control. | 2. Repair Old Pain: Safely unburden and heal the hurt. | • The Right Captain: The perfect state leading at the perfect time. |
| • Stuck in Habits: Outdated coping mechanisms. | 3. Return to “Normal”: Anchor the part back in the present. | • Total Alignment: A crew that works together beautifully. |
We don’t try to eliminate your protective or anxious parts. We listen to them. We help the *Vaded* parts safely release their old pain, we negotiate peace treaties between *Conflicted* parts, and we guide the *Dissonant* parts back to the roles where they actually thrive.
The ultimate goal is beautifully simple: ensuring that whatever waters life throws you into, the part acting as the Captain of the Moment is returned to its healthy, normal state, perfectly suited to the occasion, completely grounded, and armed with the exact skills you need to navigate ahead.
Meet the Captains of Global Resource Therapy
Bringing harmony to your inner crew requires a safe, experienced, and deeply compassionate pair of hands. That’s where we come in.
As the leading global authorities on Resource Therapy, Philipa Thornton and Chris Paulin bring decades of combined clinical expertise, warmth, and down-to-earth kindness to this profound parts-work framework. Operating from our hub in Sydney, Australia, we oversee the growth of this transformative therapy worldwide as the directors of the Australia Resource Therapy Institute and leading voices for Resource Therapy International.
Our mission is to ensure every part of you gets the stamp of validation it deserves, making this fast, respectful, and powerful clinical tool accessible to therapists and clients everywhere.
Whether you are looking to book a personal consultation to find your own internal alignment or you’re a practitioner ready to revolutionise your clinical practice, we are here to support you every nautical mile of the way.
Ready to update your passports? If you are looking for a psychologist in Sydney, or you are based anywhere across Australia or New Zealand and want to experience the rapid, life-changing shift of parts work, explore our global directory to find a certified Clinical Resource Therapist near you.
For practitioners in Australia and NZ ready to upgrade your clinical toolkit with world-class expertise, join Philipa and Chris in our upcoming professional training cohorts online and in person. Secure your passport to advanced clinical excellence on our workshop training page here.
About the Authors
Philipa Thornton & Chris Paulin are General/ Consultant Psychologists, senior international trainers, and founders of the Australia Resource Therapy Institute (ARTI). As the President and Treasurer, they are on the executive committee of Resource Therapy International. They specialise in helping individuals and practitioners master advanced parts work to create rapid, lasting emotional healing.
