What do I do with a client who has a part that says several times every day “Kill yourself”?

Taneisha RTIA's mascot. RIP loved and remembered with joy.

This question was posed by a supervisee. it’s not that uncommon, you may have even heard your own clients voice something similar, without any actual suicidal intention. We can have parts that are stuck in negative habits conducting unwanted ways of being and behaving. Retro States are the term we give for those Parts of us acting out in unhelpful and outdated protective ways.

Resource Therapy offers new ways to work with depression, overthinking and other unwanted behaviours
Resource Therapy offers new ways to work with depression, overthinking and other unwanted behaviours

I popped up a quick video down below as to what we recommend to both address and resolve Retro States. In Resource Therapy we learn a specialist technique called Retro State negotiation where we directly access the part. By working and mediating with this part we re purpose it’s role. As Resource Therapy ( RT) is a strength based system for empowerment we hold the belief all our parts are there for a reason. Our Resources are there to help.

Retro’s are a one trick pony. in their playbook we would see unhelpful behaviors – Overthinking, Addictions, Smoking , Gambling, Eating issues and the like. Applying RT Action 10 Retro State Negotiation we parley with this part and simply find it a new way to achieve it’s helping purpose and work for collaboration. This truly fosters inner peace as we appreciate and acknowledge all our parts are working for our best potential.

A client said during the RT State negotiation process he saw in his minds eye a lock and a key. So amazing.

Resource Therapy Promotes team work and resolves inner conflict resulting in harmony
Resource Therapy Promotes team work and resolves inner conflict resulting in harmony

Naturally we devote a day in the Clinical training. You learn the art of RT Negotiation. Here’s the training page for details https://resourcetherapy.com.au/resource-therapy-foundation-training-online-philipa-thornton-sydney/ This work must be preceded by clearing any underlying emotional issues – Vaded States to be truly effective. Again this is covered in depth in the Resource Therapy Clinical workshop.

That is if it is a ‘Part’ that is making the ‘kill yourself’ suggestion. Sometimes other things like an Other Personalised Identity (OPI) can be at play. A Retro State is a part of the person. It’s become habitual, like a broken record. Obviously this is not an actively suicidal part – you will take other steps for safety in that case.

With RT Action 10 we acknowledge and appreciate the Part who’s making this statement. We get a name for it that’s based on it’s higher purpose. We then offer an opportunity for this part to help in a new or lesser role.

In Memorial – Taneisha xox Born 31/10/01 Died 13/11/19

Taneisha RTIA's mascot. RIP loved and remembered with joy.
Taneisha RTIA’s mascot. RIP loved and remembered with joy.

On a sad note, here is Taneisha she would be on my lap writing the blog. What a lovely girl. Very sad. Chris, Yvette and I are sad. Mourning the loss of a beautiful being. My lovely Taneisha, she would wait outside my therapy room sending her love in. When clients came out she brought them joy. She was a master clinician of love. An angel of goodness. Thanks for the blessing of being in our lives. Tearfully Philipa xox

Congratulations to the Super Team of Magic Therapists!

Celebration lunch with our Magic Resource Therapists!

Hugely inspired and so happy to welcome our latest Clinical Resource Therapy graduates into the Resource Therapy community. A big shout out to this wonderful group.

Clinical Resource Therapy Graduates - are welcomed by the Resource Therapy Community
Clinical Resource Therapy Graduates – are welcomed by the Resource Therapy Community

Coming from diverse areas of experience and expertise – Somatic Experiencing, DBT, Schema Therapy, Suicide Prevention, Mental Health, Mindfulness, Psychology, Trauma Informed, Client Centred and EMDR trained. These beautiful shiny Clinical Resource Therapists have another amazing power tool in their therapy toolbox! Resource Therapy will fit in so well to your skillset.

See what other mental health professionals have said about the training here https://resourcetherapy.com.au/what-is-resource-therapy/hear-from-other-workshop-attendees/

As Clinical Resource Therapists we qualify to be listed with Resource Therapy International. This is the official governing body of Resource Therapy Worldwide headed by President Professor Gordon Emmerson, I am Vice President. It’s a great idea to get your website and therapy practice on as many website listing as possible, Google loves this for website rankings.

Resource Therapy Training Workshops are fun and you will learn powerful techniques to help your clietns
Resource Therapy Training Workshops are fun way to learn powerful Parts Therapy techniques to help your clients

Advanced Clinical/ Train the Trainer 5 day Workshop Sydney

The Next Level of Training March 5, 6, 7, 8 & 9 2020

For the first time ever the Resource Therapy Institute will offer the Advanced Clinical and Train the Trainer workshop in the Eastern Suburbs of Sydney. Jump to the page here for workshop dates and fees – special discounts apply we reward action https://resourcetherapy.com.au/resource-therapy-foundation-training-online-philipa-thornton-sydney/

We may have one spot left for the Foundation Training in November 18/19.

Yours in Gratitude,

Philipa

Heard of SAMSN? Survivors of Sexual Abuse Support Network for Men Learn more…

Support for Male Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse - workshops for partners and friends

SAMSN is an amazing agency who offer support to men who have been sexually abused as children. My clients actually told me about this group. It offers education, group therapy, counselling and workshops.

They are offering a free workshop for the partners, families, friends and other supporters of men recovering from abuse. Best of all it’s free!

SAMSN Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Network has a free workshop for partners, friends and other supporters to help healing.
SAMSN Male Survivors of Sexual Abuse Network

Here’s the latest offering https://www.samsn.org.au/supporters-and-survivors-workshop/

Totally worthwhile.

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