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August 22, 2018September 5, 2018

The Ten Minute Trauma Intervention Applying Resource Therapy Successfully

Be like the butterfly and transform with Resource Therapy training

On a phone call my client had become very distressed upon finding out news regarding the family member who had sexually assaulted her as a young girl.

Feelings of low self worth and trauma are often intergenerationally transmitted — Feelings of low self worth and the effects of trauma can be intergenerationally transmitted

Part of her was angry and had naturally attempted to find solace with her mother who is in her 80’s. Unfortunately her mother is unable to offer emotional support – saying to her daughter ” I was raped in my 20’s and got over it, so just get over it and put it behind you.”

Understandably my client felt justifiable anger and disappointment with her mothers response.

I said to her we actually haven’t worked with this hurt part and it would be good to do to address this part directly when I saw her next.

Hurt parts can heal with Resource Therapy

She began to cry and speak in a softer tone and I said ” I can hear your hurt part- you sound younger – can I call you ” Little One”. My client said yes. I said thank you and I would like to get you the help you need right now, is that ok with you Little One? Yes she responded affirmatively.

I called out the client’s name Jenny, I know if you saw a little girl who was feeling hurt, sad and alone, like you love your own daughter, you would crawl over glass to get to her to help her. ” Yes.” Jenny how would you want to help her? Jenny responds I would want to cuddle her. I said thank you that’s wonderful and super helpful – what can I call you? “Nice Mum.”

I said “Nice Mum you are awesome thanks for being here. Just you reach out to Little One as she’s all alone and draw her into your heart right now and let the warm glow of your unconditional love, safety, support and sanctuary flow into her being like a wonder wave.” I bet Nice Mum you love to do this… She said “yes”

And Nice Mum what do you want “Little One to know?”” I accept you”replied Nice Mum . I went back to Little One. “Little One” how does that feel you heard Nice Mum she accepts you and you are in her heart?” Little One “Safe. And Accepted.” That is wonderful, I said and I am so glad you have the unconditional love, support and safety all little girls and boys deserve.

I had tears in my eyes, I was so moved.

Helping hands are there - learn Resource Therapy's powerful trauma interventions for healing — Helping hands are there – learn Resource Therapy’s powerful trauma interventions for healing

My client said ” I feel complete, its like I feel totally accepted deep in the catacombs of my being.” “It is so profound I don’t have the depth of words to describe the peace I feel. ”

This small exchange happened in the last ten minutes of a 40 minute phone call, demonstrating the effectiveness of Resource Therapy.

I am continually amazed at how rapidly Resource Therapy’s trauma interventions work for long lasting client change. This is why I am passionate about bringing Resource Therapy training to the world of therapy.

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July 19, 2018July 22, 2018

The Clients Resource Therapy Journey

Client journey with Resource Therapy sessions

Hello Resource Therapists and others who are interested in RT. Today I would like to share with you a client’s perspective on their eight Resource Therapy sessions. This wonderful client wrote to me volunteering her lived experience of a very tough time in her life, where they had turned a corner. Resource Therapy proved to be a pivotal part of their healing program.

It is always a privilege and an honour to help people and my thanks to the author who knows who she is and shares with us her inner self. Please meet Kristina ( name changed for confidentiality ).

My Resource Therapy Journey

My journey with resource therapy started when I was 40 plus years and 6 months into an 11 month recovery from a serious work and personal burnout. It has been a long and painful road and as a high functioning depression sufferer as well, I know that finding the right therapist and treatment techniques can be challenging.

I am a therapy lover, I believe strongly in the benefits it has to offer, but when you’re struggling with day to day functioning, finding the right mix of people and skills to support your recovery can feel like a heavy task. It was through a conversation with a GP who specializes in burnout that I found out about Resource Therapy, and so my amazing journey began………

What I love about Resource Therapy is the understanding I gained about my psychological make up. Understanding the different aspects of myself, when they formed and importantly, why? The process of naming each aspect and understanding its contribution and the role it plays, and then going through the process of reframing that aspect if necessary, pulling it apart to gain a deep understanding of its positive role even if at first you cannot see one, is at the heart of Resource Therapy.

All our parts working in harmony allows peace within with Resource Therapy

I discovered 7 aspects of myself but there are probably a few more I haven’t met yet. What Resource Therapy guided me to do was to make sure each aspect knew each other and collaborated with the others, worked as a team and understood their role and strengths. It was quite funny to actually experience really clearly that there were parts of myself that literally did not know the others existed, let alone work collaboratively together.

Through the Resource Therapy process I laughed more than I cried, which was incredibly refreshing.

Gaining clarity that no single aspect of myself was an entire representation of me, that 1 or 2 or 3 aspects of myself could be contributing to any conscious thought or moment, was transformational. Additionally, I developed the skill of listening and being present with myself so I could hear which combination of my aspects were talking. I could tune in, listen and understand which aspects of me were talking loudly, being quiet or I could bring an aspect into that moment who wasn’t initially there. I cannot overstate how empowering this has been.

Through the Resource Therapy process, what I was able to cleanse myself of is hard to explain except to say, I feel lighter, free and so less afraid of what’s lurking in the shadows inside of me. In fact, I have embraced what’s inside me, all of it, including the impact of the emotional family trauma which started when I was 6 years old and has never really stopped.

Resource Therapy helped her to weather the emotional storms. — Resource Therapy has enabled me to weather emotional storms with greater skill, understanding and ease.

What amplifies the Resource Therapy process is the practice of gratitude and compassion for oneself. Often when we start therapy we are in pain and those things are hard, but the Resource Therapy process leads you down that path anyway.

Wherever and whenever you start your Resource Therapy, the journey down the rabbit hole will transform and empower you in ways you will value for the rest of your life.

I will leave you with a summary of my personal outcome from my Resource Therapy journey. This and a beautiful vision of “all my selves” holding hands smiling on a giant big white fluffy cloud marked the closing of a chapter and marked my decision that my next Resource Therapy session would be my last.

I am about living a life in pursuit of what I value. Not what my parents value, not what society values, not what my friends or the people I work for and with value. I define my value and my values.

What I value is Love, Essence, Courage, Growth, Acceptance, Appreciation, Health, Celebration and Creative.

All parts of me contribute to my life, to who I am and to helping me live my values: Spirit of Kristina, Administrator, Pain and Judgy, 13, 23, Dominator and the White Fluffy Clouds. They all know each other, know that they work together and play an equally important role in loving who I am, and the pursuit of a life bursting with what I value. They know that individually they don’t define me, but together through both pain, joy and everything in between they support me, love me and collectively contribute to who I am.

I am not my mother and I am not my father, in spite of their influence and impact, I am no longer afraid of the contributions they have made to me, because they are contributions only, they are not the definition of me. I take their contributions as gifts that have helped me unfold into the person I want to be, not who I have to be. Everything I need for my life is already inside of me, starting with the love I have for myself.

I am rich in the love of a wonderful husband, beautiful children, family and friends. I am rich in adventures, experiences, knowledge and most importantly understanding and awareness of myself and compassion and love for myself and for others. I have created this, no one else, me. I will continue to create my life knowing that everything I need, I have.

That is my key.

My Life is an Adventure, Thriving and Rich in my values, daily I am in FLOW feeling Free, Fulfilled and Alive.

Kristina.

Wonderful Kristina and thank you for sharing!

Let our light shine through with our best parts

April 20, 2018April 20, 2018

How will Resource Therapy be beneficial to you and your clients?

Life is a Journey of Learning, Growth and Healing

Ok, I am totally biased with my client experience, so I say wholeheartedly YES! My belief which guides all of us in the healing field, is we do this work in the spirit of providing benefit to our clients. We want assist people in moving out of pain and destructive life patterns. It is a an extremely worthwhile mission. Thank you all for doing your good therapy works. This work is life changing for us and the people we are privileged to see.

It’s not easy getting out of your uni course or counselling training, only to discover what a mixed bag of problems people come to lay at your therapy feet. It can be overwhelming, help is at hand here.

They didn't teach me how to deal with all of this in the psychology — They didn’t teach me how to deal with all of this in the psychology course

Where do you even start as clients roll out a list of issues as long as your arm? I know it can be overwhelming for us as new therapists and those on the job longer too at times.

What Resource Therapy offers you is clear and easy to follow protocols from a client-centred brief solution focused standpoint. It has made my therapy hours a pleasure and taken the pressure right off.

How good would it be to know this client’s issue is related to poor self esteem. Yep, I’ve go this covered, I can deal with that directly using the Resource Therapy actions on rejection.

RT has easily learnt addiction protocols.

Oh so you have panic attacks, they are easily treated, usually in a session we employ the procedure for phobia and fear. It’s exciting watching your clients face light up, hearing a sigh of relief as you tell them anxiety is resolvable.

A clear path to follow on the therapy journey is reassuring for all concerned.

Dealing with depression and seeing small glimmers of hope week to week, with no homework. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder helped by doing here and now work, that addresses the underlying causes.

Resource Therapy (RT) as all therapies have – CBT, DBT, Mindfulness Meditation, Narrative Therapy, Family Therapy and the list goes on, borrows from other traditions.

Resource Therapy has developed out of Ego State Therapy (EST), no secret there,

Your experience is valuable as a therapist

so bears some marked similarities and advances. For those of you trained in EST if you want to update your skills we offer 50% discount to attend in honour of your training.

When I talk to other therapists about RT they say oh it’s just like Voice Dialogue , or it’s Transactional Analysis TA, Family Constellations, Internal Family Systems IFS or CBT Re scripting. Look I know nothing about Voice Dialogue or Family Constellations Therapy, I am sure they have benefits. I have read something on TA and IFS. I am trained CBT Rescripting. Resource Therapy is unique.

It is a bit like saying to the EMDR practitioner “EMDR is just EFT”

EMDR Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing has long used Ego State interventions. Please read the amazing work of Jim Knipe PhD., Carole Forgash PhD., Ana Gomez PhD., Maggie Phillips PhD. and Dr Claire Frederick’s, Robin Shapiro Phd., to name a few.

These type of trauma informed therapies like Resource Therapy and all I have mentioned here are so valuable. Learn as much as you can.

Life long learning helps our brains stay healthy

Moving into a depth of work which feels inspiring and rewarding as a therapist. Do you use EMDR, Ego State, Emmerson’s advanced Ego State aka – Resource Therapy, or another mentioned.

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